Get a leg up in your
custody case!
Every decision counts—especially your dollars—when you’re in a custody battle. Use court‑savvy tools, transformative books, and kid‑safe tech trusted by our clients and professionals.
We’ve laid out our most-loved recommendations from our clients…the stuff that has helped them best through their custody cases.
Why These Picks
Court‑savvy
Show what GALs and evaluators want: stability, emotional regulation, and clear documentation.
Healing‑forward
Support you and your child’s nervous systems for calmer, safer, healthier exchanges.
Field‑tested
Recommended by clients & team members, proven effective through consistent real-world results.
Healing & Trauma Recovery Reads
The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity
Understand ACEs and how stress shows up in kids; use the science to advocate for services and prove you’re an informed parent.
Best for: framing your case around child safety and health.
How to Do the Work: An Motivational Self-Healing Book
Practical self‑healing that helps you self‑regulate and avoid “reactive parent” labels in court.
Best for: co‑regulation and calmer exchanges.
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A GUIDE AND MAP FOR RECOVERING FROM CHILDHOOD TRAUMA
Gentle, deep work—read in small doses. Name trauma responses and choose steady, court‑credible behavior.
Best for: naming triggers so you don’t get baited.
How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk
We love this book so much for any client who has been assigned a GAL or evaluator in their case. Any parent who applies the methods in this book exponentially increase their chances of their kids reporting them as an amazing, caring, firm but loving parent.
Best for: everyday interactions your child will report positively.
13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do: Raising Self-Assured Children and Training Their Brains for a Life of Happiness, Meaning, and Success
Short, memorable principles that showcase consistent, firm‑and‑kind parenting under stress.
Best for: talking points in GAL interviews.
The Art Of War
We LOVE this book to help you figure out your strategy. Our clients have been so inspired by it, and found real clarity when planning out their cases with their lawyers!
Strategy over reactivity; plan moves, not outbursts, so your record looks measured, not messy.
Best for: staying three steps ahead.
Divorce Casualties,
Second Edition: Understanding Parental Alienation
Balanced approach to protect bonding while avoiding alienating behaviors yourself.
Best for: addressing “alienation” claims credibly.
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Clear patterns of angry and controlling partners so you stop personalizing and start documenting.
Best for: evidence‑based language and safety planning.
Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
We like the way Bill Eddy lays out what your battle will be like when you are up against a psychological abuser.
Best for: parents facing a personality-disordered co-parent in court.
Prosecuted but not Silenced
In Maralee’s own words: “In Prosecuted but not Silenced, Maralee McLean exposes the dirty secret that most of the public is blissfully unaware of.” We love when we get a chance to hear Maralee speak and tell the story of losing her daughter–in spite of disclosures–to her abusive father.
Best for: staying steady through disbelief.
No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame
Narcissistic parents tend to be at a loss when they need to “discipline” toddlers. Healthier parents understand what toddlers need…and if you’re unsure, this book is a beautiful guide to a loving relationship with your littlest ones.
Best for: parents of littles who need structure.
The Quincy Solution
“Domestic violence is not inevitable. The Quincy Solution is based on successful practices in Quincy, Nashville, and San Diego so we know it works.” We always love Barry’s work, and his advocacy. And his inclusion of ACEs is key.
Best for: framing risk and prevention measures.
Financial Dignity After Divorce
Practical post‑decree wins, including how to find hidden money and assets, with firm but supportive guidance.
Best for: financial clarity and post‑separation stability.
Getting to Yes
Simple negotiation principles so you appear collaborative—even when your co‑parent says no to everything.
Best for: preparing for mediation and settlement discussions.
Hope Rising
Insights from a seasoned advocate who believes healing is possible after the worst kinds of abuse.
Best for: catching hope and optimism when you need it most.
Steps to Freedom
Research‑based strategies for breaking free from different types of abuse and trauma bonds.
Best for: supporting moms still feeling stuck.
Breaking the Ties That Bind
For parents coping with alienation; helps you protect your bond without fueling conflict.
Best for: reclaiming connection with kids turned against you.
Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent
Tools to shield your kids from toxic parenting while fostering their emotional well‑being.
Best for: protecting children from high‑conflict co‑parents.
Invisible Chains:
Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship
Practical strategies and support for survivors of coercive control. Recognize the signs, reclaim autonomy, and rebuild your life with confidence.
Best for: identifying covert abuse and planning your exit.
It’s Not You:
Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
A relationship with a narcissist is a toxic nightmare. “It’s Not You” helps you identify narcissistic abuse, heal from the trauma, and break free from toxic patterns. Reclaim your life and find peace.
Best for: reclaiming your identity
and peace.
Bradshaw On: The Family:
A New Way of Creating Solid
Self-Esteem
Healthy boundaries and family‑of‑origin insights so you stop repeating chaos and model secure attachment for your kids
Best for: cleaner boundaries the court can observe.
Domestic Violence and Nonfatal Strangulation Assessment: For Health Care Providers and
First Responders
Educates healthcare providers and first responders on identifying and documenting strangulation and DV.
Best for: professionals serving survivors and survivors advocating for proper care.
Coercive Control:
How Men Entrap Women
in Personal Life
Precise terms and patterns courts increasingly recognize; pair with your logs to make the invisible visible without drama.
Best for: translating manipulation
into evidence.
Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad – and Surprising Good – About Feeling Special
Gives you language to document and de‑escalate contact with a narcissistic co‑parent you can’t avoid.
Best for: communication strategies that won’t backfire.
Stories that Heal:
Resources for Kids and Parents
Lemonade Life
More support for your children, so that they can learn how to be the right kind of resilience, and trust who they themselves are, and know that who they are is completely valid.
Best for: empowering your children’s emotional growth.
Helping Children Learn About Domestic Abuse and Coercive Control: A ‘Floss and the Boss’ Storybook and Professional Guide
Storybook + guide to start gentle conversations, validate feelings, and build a safer future for your child.
Best for: introducing younger kids to complex realities with care.
Everyone is Beautiful
A compassionate look at changing family courts and how to support coercively controlled children from within.
Best for: parents seeking systemic context and child‑focused advocacy.
Fred Stays with Me
Children’s picture book exploring divorce and shared custody through a child’s eyes; comforts and normalizes their experience.
Best for: reassuring young kids that love remains in two homes.
Take Me With You When You Go
A fictional series of letters between siblings—read yourself before sharing with teens to spark healing discussions.
Best for: bridging conversations about abuse with older kids.
GADGETS
Gather Clean Evidence—Without Escalation
We’ve laid out our most-loved recommendations
from our clients… The stuff that has helped them best
through their custody cases.
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64GB Digital Voice Recorder with Playback,Voice Activated Recorder with Noise Reduction,3, Dual Microphone A-B Repeat Recording Mp3 Player and Password
Hands‑free capture of exchanges and appointments for accurate timelines.
Use when: you need neutral, verbatim detail.
Camera Pen 1080P-Mini Video Recorder Portable Pocket Camera Support 32GB SD Card for Business Meetings Home and Classroom Learning
Desk‑friendly camera to corroborate your narrative (where legal). Place it on a desk or in a book, and keep an eye on your child’s safety.
Use when: you’re in public locations or brief interactions.
Hero Privacy Pen – 1 Pack – Hidden Camera Detector, Anti Spy, GPS Tracker Detector, Portable RF Signal Finder for Airbnb, Hotels, Bathroom, Home, Office
Sweep for trackers and hidden cameras to protect your privacy—especially after separation.
Use when: strange tech glitches or “coincidences” pile up.
Anti Spy Detector, Hidden Camera Detector, Anti Bug Scanner and Protector, RF Signal and GPS Detector, GPS Tracker
This scanner helps you sweep your home, car, or belongings for unauthorized surveillance.
Use when: you suspect tracking, GPS, or hidden cameras in your space.
Blink Indoor – wireless, HD security camera with two-year battery life, motion detection, and two-way audio – 1 camera system
Motion-activated video with two-way audio. Install multiple cameras for fuller home coverage without constant charging.
Use when: you need reliable, discreet indoor monitoring to keep exchanges and home life documented.
Blink Outdoor (3rd Gen) – wireless, weather-resistant HD security camera, two-year battery life, motion detection, set up in minutes – 2 camera system
Captures video and conversations outside—even in rain or snow. Parents report it has documented violations of Protective Orders at exchanges.
Use when: you need proof of outdoor interactions or exchange compliance.
Blink Mini – Compact indoor plug-in smart security camera, 1080p HD video, night vision, motion detection, two-way audio, easy set up, Works with Alexa – 2 cameras (White)
Captures what’s happening when you’re away. Many parents report it’s picked up valuable conversations their kids were having at home.
Use when: you need a reliable plug-in camera for everyday indoor monitoring.
Power Bank Camera, WiFi Smart Indoor Security Camera 1080P HD Wireless Nanny Cam with Motion Detection, Portable Video Recorder for Home, Baby, Pet, No Audio
A working charger that doubles as a discreet camera. Plug in your cord so recording looks natural.
Use when: you need covert recording that blends into daily life.
MIUFLY 1296P FHD Body Camera Indoor and Outdoor Use with 2 Inch Display, GPS, Night Vision (64GB)
Portable and durable with night vision and GPS. Wear discreetly or openly, depending on the situation.
Use when: you need a travel-ready body cam for exchanges, visits, or on-the-go documentation.
128GB Digital Voice Recorder for Lectures & Meetings – Holyask Ultra-Long 9296 Hours Voice Activated Audio Recorder with Playback, Password Protection, and Clear Sound Recording
High‑quality audio capture with noise‑cancelling mic and playback—ideal for lectures and meetings.
Use when: you need lengthy recordings and password protection.
Mini Body Camera Video Recorder, Wearable Police Body cam with Night Vision, Built-in 32GB Memory Card, HD1080P, Record Video, Night Vision, 4-6HR Battery Life, Law Enforcement, Security Guard, Home
Smaller than standard body cams; records HD video with night vision.
Use when: subtle recording is important.
Mini Spy Camera – WiFi Hidden Camera – 1080P Home Security Cam – Nanny Cam – Portable Tiny Camera, Real-time Videotaping and Motion Detection, for Pet/Interior/Household Surveillance
Looks like a smoke detector—captures HD video with night vision; motion‑activated.
Use when: you need discreet long‑term surveillance.
Court Prep Essentials
Pendaflex File Folders, Bright Green, Yellow, Red, Blue, 36 pack Letter Size
Colorful folders help you separate evidence categories for easy referencing.
Use when: organizing witness statements, medical reports, and more.
Cardinal Economy
3 Ring Binder, 1 Inch,
4 Pack of Binders
Perfect for printed copies of evidence; compact and easy to transport.
Use when: your court requires physical documents.
Lysas 4 Sets Neon Page Markers Colored Index Tabs, 560pcs
Draw attention to key points in your binder for quick access by judges or evaluators.
Use when: marking the most compelling pages.
Wiltop 110 Pcs Binder Clips Metal Paper Clamps Black Set Assorted Sizes
Keep thick documentation secure and your binder shut—ideal when you’re carrying multiple folders.
Use when: consolidating large stacks of evidence.
Kid-Safe Tools & Resources
Child-safe tech and emotional-wellness tools
chosen to help young hearts feel secure, heard, and connected across two homes.
Gabb Phone
Ideal first phone for kids.
Unlimited talk/text. No internet, no social media, no unsafe apps. Kids stay connected;
you stay in control.
Use code BLUEPRINT if a sale is live.
Designed for: simple, safe communication—nothing extra.
Gabb Watch
Built for ages 5–11 with approved contacts only. Simple SOS, GPS, and easy calls to parents/grandparents. Comes with its own number—no extra line needed.
Use code BLUEPRINT if a sale is live.
Designed for: younger kids who need touch‑and‑go safety.
Big Life Journal
Build growth mindset and social‑emotional learning skills your child may not learn in your co‑parent’s home. Practice resilience, self‑talk, and problem‑solving together.
Great for: bedtime connections evaluators notice.
Lifestyle needs
Post-Separation Essentials
NARP
Trauma recovery program that many moms swear by. Break free from patterns, rebuild self‑esteem, and create a fulfilling life.
Great for: nervous‑system resets that stick.
Mint Mobile
Cut the bill, keep the coverage. Prepaid plans on T‑Mobile’s network mean phone costs drop to a fraction of old rates while reliability stays solid.
Great for: budget relief without service drama.
Survivor Shop
Narcissist Proof Domestic Violence Awareness T-Shirt
Wear courage. Start conversations. Support survivors—every October and beyond.
Purple Ribbon Awareness Wristbands
Show your strength. Support survivors. Wear a Purple Ribbon Wristband to raise awareness for domestic violence and show solidarity with those who have endured abuse. Every ribbon represents hope for healing and a future free from violence.
Domestic Violence Awareness Stickers
Speak your truth. Inspire change. These Domestic Violence Awareness stickers are a powerful symbol of solidarity and healing. Share them, raise awareness, and help break the silence. Your voice matters.
How Strong We Are Tumbler
Celebrate your resilience. This tumbler is a daily reminder of your journey and the strength you’ve found. Carry it with pride and stay hydrated on your path to healing and empowerment.
Stop Domestic Violence
License Plate Frame
Transform your car into a moving message of hope. We love how this license plate frame raises awareness and declares our commitment to a future free from abuse. Drive with pride and inspire change!
Purple Ribbon Brooch
Wear your strength, inspire hope. This elegant Purple Ribbon Brooch is a symbol of resilience and a reminder of your journey. It sparks conversations, raises awareness, and honors your commitment to healing and a brighter future.
